THIS POST CONTAINS DETAILS OF SELF HARM.
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I’ve often heard people say that those who commit suicide are completely selfish. As someone that has suffered from depression since I was a child I have often thought of taking my own life. To others who may be going through the same thing, it might barely be a blip on their radar. To me and many others, it’s often the first thing we think about doing if something goes wrong in our lives.
I recently read a quote that couldn’t be more appropriate; “Suicide is not selfish. Suicide is, normally, death caused by the illness of depression. It is the final symptom. A final collapse under unbearable weight. Suicide is a tragedy. If you have never been close to that edge, please try not to judge what you can’t understand.” I can understand why some might think that suicide is selfish. Something that I think is more selfish is treating people so badly that they think and feel that suicide is their only option left.
How many times have you heard someone say that people who talk about committing suicide is just that, all talk? Similarly, how many times have we heard others say that someone suffering from depression are just attention seekers? These negative and judgemental attitudes only fuel the stigma surrounding mental health. It discourages people in desperate need of help from reaching out in those moments.
I’ve always said that “Talking is Education” but understandably, people thinking or talking about committing suicide are often too scared to talk about how they’re feeling. Scared to express what is really going through their head because they are afraid they will be judged and labelled as attention seekers.
Let’s fight to remove the stigma surrounding mental health once and for all! Instead of prejudging, let’s open our hearts and our minds and practice understanding, compassion and kindness. Not all people struggling with mental health challenges will ask for help, but let’s be there if they do. Too many people still exclude themselves due to the negative stigmas. It needs to stop! It is extremely damaging to those people who are already in an unsafe state of mind and diminishes the pain and desperation they are feeling.
Those that ask for help should be commended instead of being judged due to preconceived and uneducated notions. When I reached out, I was thankfully met with professional help and for that I am forever grateful.
Did you know that the majority of those feeling suicidal do not actually want to die? Generally, they just don’t want to continue living the life that they are barely surviving. This distinction may seem small, but it is in fact very important. It’s why talking is so important. Suicide victims are not selfish, they’re not weak and they’re not cowards.
Suicide victims are loved and missed every day. They are Mothers, Fathers, Daughters, Sons, Husbands, Wives, Partners, Aunts, Uncles, Brothers, Sisters, Cousins, Grandparents, Grandchildren and Friends who are experiencing intense and overwhelming negative feelings about themselves and cannot see any other solution.
If you’re feeling suicidal or know anyone that may be feeling that way, please call “000” immediately or call BeyondBlue on 1300 224 636.