Resilience is a key contributor to good mental health. It is more than being able to bounce back. It is the ability to experience both negative and positive emotions even in painful situations. It is finding value in most challenges and not allowing a negative situation to turn ALL your emotions negative. It is those people who find a silver lining or looking at the good in life at the same time as acknowledging the bad.
It doesn’t mean that resilient people don’t feel negative emotions. Quite the opposite actually. It means they experience them, they grieve, they get angry. What they don’t do is dwell there in the negative. They climb out and know that good emotions are just around the corner.
This ability allows people to achieve more in life, in whatever space they want to achieve in. It helps them to cope with the inevitable challenge’s life will throw at them.
It is generally agreed that while some people seem to be born with more resilience than others, it is possible to cultivate resilience, even as adults.
How to Develop Resilience as an Adult
- Start looking for the good and pump up your positivity
Your thoughts really do create your emotions. And negative thinking can become a habit. Start trying to break that habit today. When you hear your thoughts and they are running down negative street, stop and reframe what you are thinking. A basic example is the glass is half empty. Actually, it is half full. When you get a handle on these thoughts you can go all the way to saying the glass is always full – it has different amounts of water and air.
- Become a life learner
What this means to question what is happening to you or around you in a neutral way. Ask yourself questions such as “what is this trying to teach me?” “what are my choices here”. It takes time to go from the judgemental questions such as “What is wrong?” and “Who’s to blame?” but you can do this.
3. Practice and receive kindness & gratitude
Opening your heart and start acknowledging what is good in your life. Every day write down what you are grateful for. We do it as a family before bed. You should also try and do it a few times throughout the day. Take your mind to the positive.
Kindness is a two-way street. Start doing for others and you will get a sense of the good in the world and be practicing positivity. Don’t forget though, that you also need to be open to receiving kindness in your own life. Don’t question it, when someone offers you kindness, thank them. If you are complimented on your dress don’t say, “oh this old thing”, say thank you.
4. Take Care of You
Make sure that you look after you physical and mental health in other ways too. Have routines, exercise, eat well, take your medications. Look for alternative ways to help yourself. We at 2 B Continued are big advocates of medications and therapy. But we also use other methods to improve our wellbeing. Some of those things include being out in nature, watching our favourite (funny is best) TV shows or movies, essential oils, affirmations, light therapy, art or music therapy. There are so many other ways to support your mental health.
These 4 things can help you build resilience. Building resilience will increase your mental wellbeing.
Start today, take baby steps and know that you can do this, and we believe in you.
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